Covenant Marriage | 04

04. too heavy to haul

There is so much that I would like to share with you here…  but I think it is important to keep this very simple.  Too many times we pick up stuff we were never intended to carry.  Then, there is the burden of our expectations that we place on others.  Both are exhausting and just too heavy of a load to haul.

We can come up with a million reasons as to why we do this but the bottom here is the bottom line…

If you can understand that a covenant marriage really begins and ends with you and God then hopefully you will see that there is only one person to pass along your burdens.

I remember having this real “aha” moment during a conversation with my pastor one evening as we discussed my marriage and our circumstances during that time.  He helped me see how I had turned the examples of Godly men in my life into a burden on Andy. Their walk, their relationship, their ministry was something I knew and over time, became the standard to which I compared Andy.  Not only was that wrong, but it robbed us both the opportunity of seeing God’s power to do something unique in both of our lives, especially in my husband’s life.

On my face that night I asked for forgiveness.  I prayed for my husband to be the man that God desired him to be and no longer the man of God I expected.

Whatever you carry, He says bring it all to me.  This invitation to give him our lot is an opportunity to go deeper with Christ.  In Peter, we learn that “He himself bore our sins in his body on the tree, that we might die to sin and live to righteousness. By his wounds, you have been healed.”  It is time for healing.

Sweet friend, let go, stand in your faith and be made whole.


  • Matthew 11:28-30… a simple promise of hope

Additional scripture…

  • Psalms 55:22… trust He will carry

Reading through these scriptures I hope you see God is faithful to begin something new within our heart if we wash our mind with His truths.


  • The word “cast” is used in another part of scripture where Jesus tells the disciples to cast their nets on the other side of the boat.  Read John 21:6 and compare the disciple’s outcome with the possibility of your outcome and response to this command.
  • Have you dealt with life’s struggles and disappointments differently as your relationship with Christ matures? How so?


  • Ephesians 6:10-20


Each day as you go through this study share with others what God is revealing to you through scripture.  This not only is a testament to what God is doing in your life but a spiritual discipline to help you anchor God’s truth.

Our Prayer…

Dear heavenly Father, We are so thankful that we never have to walk alone and that you are more than willing to carry our burdens.  Help us to recognize the need to lay our lot at your feet.  We trust you will more than sustain.  Help us heavenly Father to only desire what you have purposed for our spouse.  We ask that you bring healing and make us whole.  In Jesus Name, Amen.


(Originally published 11/2017, updated 08/2017)

Author: Natalie

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